I’m not usually one for clichés, but “have courage and be kind” really seems to have resonated with me recently. Granted, I don’t always succeed in having an abundance of courage or kindness, although I do try, especially with the latter. But life is teaching me a lot of valuable lessons recently, the sort of knowledge no college or university can offer. I’m in the school of life, and I really am learning the value of both courage and kindness.
When I think of where I want my life to go, and what kind of person I want to be, It’s all good and well wanting to be ‘successful’ ‘financially independent’ ‘respected’ ‘hard working’, they’re all great things to be. But would I really be satisfied? Would I be truly happy if that’s how I could define myself in five or ten years’ time? I can honestly say, I don’t think so. I really don’t think I’d be proud of myself if in ten years’ time I looked back at my life and everything that has led up to that particular moment, and only had my job or my successes to be proud of. I want to look back and be proud of all of my failures.
I know that may sound rather odd. We, as human beings, would prefer to go through life unscathed. But that just isn’t even remotely realistic. So yes, I do want to be proud of all of my failures, not necessarily proud of the failure. Just proud of how I handled it, what I learnt from it and how I grew into a better person because of it. I want to look back, and be so proud of myself for having the courage to do what people (including myself) said I never could. I want to be proud of how kind I’ve been, even to people who didn’t always treat me with kindness, or dare I say even deserved my kindness. That’s the kind of person I want to be.
I don’t necessarily know what I want to do, or exactly who I want to be but I do know I that want to have courage and be kind, no matter what obstacles life throws my way. I think we should all try harder to have courage and be kind.